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愛情路上的壞習慣

五月 22, 2010

生活中每一個範疇,每個人都會有壞習慣。有些人壞習慣一籮籮,有些人卻只有一兩個壞習慣。習慣好壞之分,在於它的影響力是正面還是負面的。要戒除壞習慣,難呀。或者換一句說話,如果是因性格而「養成」的壞習慣,有可能一生也改不了。因為不同的壞習慣,塑造出不同的人生,要不,就可以人人都到成功人士,這個社會就不會有階級之分。所以,玄學亦有一說,改性格,自能改命運。

日常中的微小壞習慣,又可以如何改善呢?悲觀一點,自製恐懼,或會有效。

Fear is a great catalyst. It’s the booster rocket, the initial push that moves us through the atmosphere of inertia.

Fear is unsustainable. It’s exhausting and stressful and destructive over time. Its purpose is short-term change. For long-term change, the experience of fear needs to be followed by the experience of a better life.

That’s the second step. The reward. The fulfilled promise of a better present. The nourishment that keeps us going for the long term.

Fear will help you stop.  — Peter Bregman

感情路上的壞習慣,卻往往是最難改的。因為對某些未發生的事產生了恐懼,自然會選擇減慢步伐,甚至停下來。唯有這樣,才可以在往後的路途上有更多的空間去進步。

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  1. magnetJ permalink
    五月 22, 2010 10:29

    “Fear is a great catalyst"

    EXACTLY. yet the scarest thing is to lose the fear… u know sometimes ppl can be too loosen up to lose the feeling of fear, thinking “oh its okay, its fine…" there ARE ppl like this right?

    • 五月 22, 2010 10:39

      Yup, but sometimes fantasy is motivation of life, isn’t it? Though a bit self-conflicting, it is true that sometimes illusion would be a great comfort — a kind of self-healing.

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